For when you think you tricked people into giving you an awesome job.

One of the most common themes I see across my clients is objectively successful women who struggle with confidence.  They have everything on paper that demonstrates that they have been successful: resumes with continued growth in responsibility and ownership, years of positive performance reviews, job titles that they once aspired to, salaries they once dreamed of, coworkers who sing their praises and managers who trust them to execute.  

Yet somehow as soon as they think about making a change they struggle to believe in themselves and their abilities.  They think that they somehow managed to get here by luck or hard work or tricking people into hiring them.  

Honestly, it pisses me off. 

Not at my clients.  But at the culture that has taught them to doubt themselves and seek validation and approval from others.  It’s not a coincidence that so many successful women suffer from low confidence.  We were socialized to believe that we needed to be perfect to be in the room.  Our self standards are higher than any manager we’ve ever had. And our self tolerance for mistakes is basically zero.  It makes it difficult to feel confident when mistakes are unacceptable and your bar is set sky high and never stops moving.  

Helping awesome women transform their confidence is one of the most truly satisfying parts of my job.  I know that they are so deeply capable – the moment they realize it too is pure magic. 

Here’s what one of my clients had to say about it: 

‘’The biggest transformation I’ve had since working with Kelsey was rewiring my perception of what confidence actually is. It sounds weird to say it, but I’ve learned to value my talent and experience objectively. I used to worry that speaking about my capabilities was arrogant or cocky.  But now I can speak with conviction about how great I am and it feels very true. I’m just aware of what my abilities are and I’m giving them the importance they deserve. 

Before I needed to be validated from outside sources in order to be willing to ask for what I wanted. I always knew that I actually was good enough, but other people’s opinions kept holding me back. After working with Kelsey I feel confident enough to take my career into my own hands, on my schedule.  I now have unwavering confidence in my own abilities. And what’s crazy is how fast it’s changed, after only a few sessions I felt a shift.’’